Ladies! This Is What Happens When You Date A ‘hard Guy’
Family and relationship psychotherapist Fran Walfish, PsyD, notes that “dating in your 40s is so much harder because most divorced people in their 40s still have growing children living at home.” There are many ways kids can complicate dating in your 40s. “Children can play into the equation heavily at this age,” says career and relationship coach Julieanne O’Connor. “Often people already have children, or don’t yet have children and sometimes feel rushed to do so. And there’s the consideration of raising someone else’s children.” Unfortunately, our culture has evolved in a way that has made finding a good man tough ― and they certainly don’t make them like they used to.
The general trend means that if we use a stupid scale of 1-10 then nearly all the women gun for the top 20% or so of men leaving the bottom 80% fighting for scraps. It is the illusion this creates for women that means they are so picky. They really believe they can net a guy way more attractive than themselves just because they can sleep with him. Look I’m that 1 percenter guy talking to 16 woman. I’m confident approaching woman in most settings, only contingent on whether I’m in a good mood. I pull in a six figure Salary am quite attractive and very fit.
The worst she could do is reject you, and even then this rejection from an almost-stranger shouldn’t matter that much. These reasons can range from something as simple as nervousness to practically showcasing your insecurity when you’re around women. This reminds me of a time we went to some lecture at the Old Bailey.
Hi Apollonia – I’ve always been a shy introvert and have never approached a woman in my life . I’m in my late 30s and women friends have told me that single women at my age want to settle down. The issue is I have zero relationship or dating experience, and my friends say that is a large red flag for most women.
The top 5% received 41.1% and the top 10% received the majority of the likes, coming in at 58%. If you found yourself in the bottom half of users, you and your buddies received a total of just 4.3% of all Hinge likes. No one is immune to having a rocky past, and sometimes that past can interfere with how that person moves forward ― if they move forward at all. Messy baggage can keep even the great guys in hiding for a long time.
For example, I went on a few dates recently with a guy who was low income, high quality. Because he was low income, he could not spend much on dates, but explained that he was working on his house and supporting his mom. He didn’t harp on money and came up with affordable date options that were successful because he had a great personality and did not need to “wow” with a bunch of stuff. By leading with my instincts I was able to see more clearly. I had the ability to weed through those with negative intentions and apprehend any red flags without a second thought or doubt.